i think if they are truly using the term defensively and not humorously, they are caught in that long-running and difficult place some of stay in for years, of rejecting certain judgments of society or authority figures and yet not being able to totally break free of them and say, fuck you, i'm liking this anyway, forget it.
i've heard it said as kind of a beacon that in order to be in the erotic porny parts of the fanfic world we have to make a vow to suspend all shame! which can be hard, scary, liberating or all three at once.
but this fearlessness in rejecting society's judgment on what we are doing here doesn't come overnight. so perhaps that defensiveness is part of that... wishing there was not that guilty attached, wishing it wasn't risky, wishing not to be an outsider. that sort of thing. i don't see it as an attempt at charm, but maybe i'm missing something.
and of course for some people sexy=bad and forbidden, period. so there can be that flavor woven in, I guess....the forbidden having an intrinsic appeal. kind of like that tongue in cheek saying from the fifties... "Everything I like is either illegal, immoral or fattening."
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Date: 2010-01-24 06:57 pm (UTC)i've heard it said as kind of a beacon that in order to be in the erotic porny parts of the fanfic world we have to make a vow to suspend all shame! which can be hard, scary, liberating or all three at once.
but this fearlessness in rejecting society's judgment on what we are doing here doesn't come overnight. so perhaps that defensiveness is part of that... wishing there was not that guilty attached, wishing it wasn't risky, wishing not to be an outsider. that sort of thing. i don't see it as an attempt at charm, but maybe i'm missing something.
and of course for some people sexy=bad and forbidden, period. so there can be that flavor woven in, I guess....the forbidden having an intrinsic appeal. kind of like that tongue in cheek saying from the fifties... "Everything I like is either illegal, immoral or fattening."
just armchair psychology here.