Not at all! The experience was a happy one exactly because the norm is so unhappy. By rights it ought to have been unremarkable.
"Pige-kæreste"? Ugh, hate.
You know that whole Irma thing, right? We talked about that too, and she thought people were being oversensitive, except for the one shining example of one gay man who had written a letter to the newspaper about how people ought not to be so sensitive.
I told her I've had far more offensive things yelled at me in the street because of my orientation, and the point wasn't that we couldn't shrug it off. The point was that we shouldn't have to shrug it off, and that that advertisement campaign was symptomatic of the social acceptance of homophobia and gender policing. I think she got it, which was also progress!
The experience is in some ways similar to microaggressions, and right now I can't think of the word or phrase for it when it comes to the subtle and pervasive Othering and exclusion of other minorities, but it's extremely difficult to explain how these constant episodes pile up and wear the victim down to someone who hasn't experienced it themself. But as long as I frame it as "someone is hurting her child", then she's at least predisposed to take my side.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
(no subject)
Date: 2011-05-29 02:05 pm (UTC)"Pige-kæreste"? Ugh, hate.
You know that whole Irma thing, right? We talked about that too, and she thought people were being oversensitive, except for the one shining example of one gay man who had written a letter to the newspaper about how people ought not to be so sensitive.
I told her I've had far more offensive things yelled at me in the street because of my orientation, and the point wasn't that we couldn't shrug it off. The point was that we shouldn't have to shrug it off, and that that advertisement campaign was symptomatic of the social acceptance of homophobia and gender policing. I think she got it, which was also progress!
The experience is in some ways similar to microaggressions, and right now I can't think of the word or phrase for it when it comes to the subtle and pervasive Othering and exclusion of other minorities, but it's extremely difficult to explain how these constant episodes pile up and wear the victim down to someone who hasn't experienced it themself. But as long as I frame it as "someone is hurting her child", then she's at least predisposed to take my side.