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[noracharles]

I learned something today, that I regularly need to relearn.

When something is a huge milestone for the disprivileged minority group I belong to, then I don't want you to come and tell me that it doesn't matter, because it's still full of fail in so many other ways.

You are however welcome to tell me that it does matter, but that it is full of fail in so many other ways.

By all means, tell me about the fail. I want to discuss the fail. But don't you dare tell me that the specific oppression which the group I belong to suffers does not matter.

Comments

[laughingrat]

Hey, miss. The third panel of this Cat and Girl comic reminded me about this post (and our lengthy conversation today about the subject).

[jesse_the_k]

Oh, yes! Thank you for putting that into words.

[noracharles]

Thank you :-)

It was pretty hard for me to wrap my mind around. It always is, when I'm blind to my privilege, which I usually am. But at least I've learned that when my reaction to someone telling me they are hurt is to be bored and annoyed, then I need to go away and check my privilege.

As usual, it helped me imagining myself in their place, and remembering situations where a milestone for "my people" has been disdainfully swept away as being no big deal, because it was not on the agenda of someone more privileged.