Sometimes coming out isn't never ending

[noracharles]

My mom made me really happy today.

Sometimes I feel like I have to come out to her over and over again, because it's so often she expresses some unexamined heteronormative assumption about me and my life.

But today I was telling her a story about a female friend and "her darling" - boyfriend/girlfriend is not a gendered word in Danish - and without any hesitation or sign of thinking it over or making an effort, my mother replied referring to them as "two young women". As it happened, my friend is straight and her darling was a man, but most of my friends are queer, and it feels wonderful to know that my mom understands and accepts that on an unconscious level now.

Comments

[noracharles]

I agree about the conflation of gender non-conformity and homosexuality. The two things are related, but not as strongly as the heteronormative would have you think, and as far as I know, the people primarily protesting the ad were not LGBTQ activists.

I do know the expression "pige-kæreste", and it pisses me off.

Sorry to be so abrupt, I really appreciate your thoughtful reply, but right now I'm too tired and hungry to think very deeply or seriously about anything :-)

All I can think about is some nice goat cheese on toast!

[calvinahobbes]

I didn't really mean for my comment to devolve into a giant thesis using all those pretentious words anyway! I hope you are Getting Things Done. And now I want cheese. Mmm, cheese...