That is true. I know that I personally am more in my comfort zone when people tell me what their opinion and perspective is, both on me and on the situation. I don't mind knowing that those people are people I have no wish to know, rather than just suspecting it.

But if their aim were to get along with people like me in an impersonal and polite way, as opposed to explaining themselves to people like me so that we might better understand each other, then they went about it the wrong way.

I was recently in a similar situation, where my modly interests and personal interests were in conflict. I decided after sleeping on it to vent my feelings to a friend in a private chat, and keep it out of the space I was moderating. I don't know if it was the right choice, but it was the choice that hurt the community less, and a choice I can live with.

I think the mods of fangasm put their personal interests above the interests of their comm when they chose to explain themselves. It may not be a bad or wrong choice, but it is a choice which limits their membership.